I am so happy that you are such a responsive group! Thank you for your emails and communicating with me. I realize that I'm not on this page as often as I had originally promised, but I thank you for being patient with me as I try to ramp back up to where we want to be.
In your email, the bulk of the concerns seem to be about overwhelm. A concept I am quite familiar with. The next on the "most popular" list seemed to be goals and goal setting. So I will devote these next few weeks to those topics.
It is easy to feel overwhelmed as everyone expects us to be Supermom at any given day or time. And we have a hard time saying "no". We've got an image to protect, after all.
Working moms feel guilty for leaving their children and stay at home moms get labeled as lazy. No matter the choices we make, someone, somewhere will find fault. And with social media, people are not shy about venting their opinions to all of Facebook.
So, first things first. We need to understand who WE are. We need to see our foundation clearly. It will help our decision making in every aspect of our lives. When we have our principles and our beliefs and our priorities in order then we won't be as easily distracted with others opinions, needs and wants.
Now, grab your coffee (or hot chocolate or tea... I'm in chai tea mode today) and get a piece of paper and a writing utensil of your choice.
Take a few moments to answer each one of these questions. There are no right or wrong answers, so don't worry about that. And, these answers are just for you. So be honest. Answer with as many words and feelings as you deem necessary.
Are you ready?
Here we go.... Question number one:
1. I spend lots of time doing:
2. I often think about:
3. I emotionally depend on:
4.When I need to experience growth, I:
5. When I crave relaxation and rest, I:
6. To feel alive I:
7. I experience purpose when I:
8. To feel love, I:
9. To feel safe and certain, I:
10. When I do _____________, I feel important and special.
11. I get the most accomplished when I:
12. Before I close my eyes to sleep at night, I mostly think about:
And there you go! Was that easy? Was it hard? Spend some time filling out the answers and then reflecting back on them. You might be surprised at how little you don't know about yourself.
Take these few moments, just for you and let me introduce yourself ... to you.
Elizabeth Bourgeret is a life coach, author and she is the creator of the teen life skills event called Total Truth Workshop and the Leading With Love Series of books, workshops and coaching.